Here is a snippet from the movie “Coach Carter”. Watch and be inspired… and decide, what miracles are you going to make happen today?
Introducing myself to a new martial arts student, I mentioned that I am a lightworker. This is a common term amongst many of my friends, but I was reminded that it is not yet a universal term when I was asked “What is a Lightworker?”.
So I thought it would be interesting to note down what my thoughts are, in terms of a definition…
Firstly, let me share what Google returned through an online search:
And now to my thoughts:
I see a lightworker as someone who consciously chooses to bring greater love, peace and happiness to people’s lives.
A lightworker is someone who develops themselves deliberately, knowing that any improvement they make in their own life will most often times help others.
A lightworker is compassionate and non-judgemental, leads by example, and realises that all people are doing the best they know how, with the knowledge they have, at any point in time.
Many lightworkers have studied ways of helping and healing others, and it is their great joy to share their knowledge in assisting others to better their lives.
These are the ideals I do my best to live up to.
I, too, am still learning, and don’t always achieve it. But I am very clear about they type of person that I choose to be, and use this framework to assess options and make choices in alignment with these ideals whenever I can.
Are you a lightworker too? Many, many people do a number of these things naturally, and add huge amounts of light and love to our world. We are blessed to have these people in our lives, and give thanks for their presence and uplifting natures. If this is your nature, I invite you to also make it a conscious decision, set an intention for your life and join the many of us who are empowering ourselves and others in making our world a better place.
I would love to hear what you think, or if you have any extra ideas on the characteristics that define a lightworker. Please leave me a comment!
With infinite love & gratitude,
I love it when the universe surprises me with synchronous events, like it did today!
It is the Monday of a long weekend here today, and my family went out to visit some quaint towns in the hills for an adventure. And of the three towns we visited, we ‘coincidentally’ ran into friends in two of these three towns!
The first town we visited was with the intention of our daughter’s visiting a favourite toy store that has a lot of hand-made puppets and other interesting amusements. While they were shopping with their Dad, I stayed outside in the park across the road with our dog. I wandered around the park, giving both of us a run, and greeting other dogs and people who ventured into the same space. It was a lovely relaxing time.
As we left, our family had a discussion about where to go next. Our youngest daughter wanted to go straight home, but the rest of us wanted to continue exploring. She was outvoted. So we went to the next spot, to a nursery we were hoping to visit. However, when we go there, it was closed… Next to it was a playground, which we then decided to play on (still with some reluctance from our youngest family member!).
After only a few minutes in the playground, who should arrive, but none other than our youngest daughter’s best friend from school!!! What are the chances that her family would choose to go for a walk to the same playground, at the same time, on the same day that we had ‘accidentally’ stopped there???
Needless to say, our youngest daughter was delighted, and the rest of us were able to enjoy our outdoor time in the playground while the rest of our friends family took their dog for a walk. It was a perfect scenario for our youngest, and also for our eldest daughter who was keen to plan some ideas for her next birthday without being regularly interrupted with ideas from her little sister. We all felt incredibly grateful for this ‘lucky’ turn of events. 🙂
After a good play, both for us and the other family, we decided it was time to move on. We visited a Chocolate Shop for an afternoon drink on our way home. While waiting for our drinks I took our girls to the outside bathroom. When I returned, how amazing it was to find that one of my friends from my Goddess Workshops had chosen to sit right next to us. She had never met my husband, so had no way of knowing that I would be sitting there! We enjoyed a lovely chat (it has been a couple of years since we last saw each other), and then continued on our way. Once again the timing had been spot on, the location had been ideal, and the whole event seemed too well orchestrated to be simply put down to ‘coincidence’.
Having met her best friend at the playground, our youngest daughter was able to re-evaluate her need to say ‘no’ to opportunities, and to learn that sometimes when we think life is going against our will, that it is actually conspiring for something better than we could have even imagined!
What an amazing universe we live in, and many thanks to the great spirit that coordinates the adventures, mysteries and miracles of our lives…
Do you have a story of synchronicity that you would like to share? I would love for you to tell me all about it by leaving me a comment below.
With infinite love & gratitude,
Thanks for visiting my blog…
This post has been created to test a few things I have discovered.
I am attempting to see what each of the options of this design layout do…
I needed to add a number of lines to really see the full functionality.
So that is why I have spread them out so far.
With love to you, Miracle Mandy
This morning I made an open fire to warm our house, and in the process I learnt some important principles for achieving goals that I would like to share with you…
A lot of the required elements were in place:
- We had the desire; it was clear in our minds – to start a fire to warm our house now that our heater is not working.
- We had the right ingredients; wood, paper, matches, firelighters and enthusiasm.
- The timing was right; we had the time to devote to getting it going, and to leave it going for a number of hours to add some warmth to our space.
And yet, it didn’t take off.
We lit the paper, lit the firelighters, they burnt for a bit and then went out. We tried this a couple of times, and it was clear that something was not working.
In their enthusiasm and hurry to achieve the goal, my husband and children piled all the ingredients of a fire right on top of all the other bits. The firelighters, paper, large and small pieces of wood were all haphazardly piled on top of each other. There was not structure to it, no thought put behind the layout, and no space for air to flow between the components. In essence, the fire was smothered…
From a number of years of Girl Guide training, I offered to assist. I pulled everything out, and started again. But this time, I placed the small, fast burning items on the bottom. I appreciated the importance of letting a spark have some space to ignite, and to then catch onto some twigs that I sourced. As the firelighters lit the paper, which ignited the twigs and then started to burn the larger branch pieces, I realised that this was a metaphor for life, for projects, for achieving our goals. Eventually the branch pieces were burning consistently, and I was able to add the bigger pieces of wood, those chunks that will burn for an hour or more. At this point the fire has gained momentum and pretty much burns without much human intervention.
And so I would like to share some of the parallels I noticed about achieving goals in the process:
- All fires start small, it is a spark (an idea) that is the ignition point
- Small flames (ideas being shared) need to be nurtured, protected from going out, and encouraged to grow further
- Make sure the fire (goal) is not smothered by trying to get too big too fast. In our case my family had overloaded the fire with big lumps of wood right on top of the firelighter. It was too much for the firelighter and paper to get the dense piece of wood to ignite, and hence the fire kept going out. There was no room for air to flow through the stack, and no gradual build-up as part of the plan.
- Asking for advice (business or life coaching) from someone who has had success in the area you are aiming for, can expedite your success, as you can learn from the trial and error that they went through, without having to take the time and energy to do the same. It enables you to learn the techniques of success in your chosen area, and to absorb a higher level of self-belief when an accomplished person is able to guide the way for you.
- Adding twigs (prototypes, first sales) is an important step in the process. When aiming towards a big goal, it is important to create opportunities for learning, practising, refining along the way. This should be on a smaller scale than the final vision of what is possible. Making mistakes is the fastest way to learn, and an inevitable part of any growth process, so it is better to learn the lessons on a smaller scale where possible. As each small success is achieved, this builds our confidence to continue, and as each small learning opportunity comes along, this helps us solidify our vision and improve our offering.
- Graduate from smaller to larger logs (build momentum). This is true for a fire, and true for any goal. It is about scaling our habits, practices and processes to match where we are in the growth process, and where we are moving towards.
- Once the fire is established (goal achievement or business maturity), maintaining it requires only limited effort by comparison to the nurturing and constant input required at the beginning. The heat that the fire generates from the cumulation of past successes, means that any additional piece of wood that is added is immediately productive, and essentially ‘comes along for the ride’ on the success of those pieces that are already there.
- Adding more wood (a process of continual improvement) is the key to keeping the fire burning at its optimum for as long as possible. While it may not take as much effort to keep the fire burning as it did to get it going, without adding more fuel for it to burn, the fire will eventually go out.
At each step along the way it is important to take time to celebrate each success, both large and small. When we celebrate our successes, we are buoyed to continue on, to grow further, to aim higher and to share with others.
So on that note, I am returning to my now roaring fire, am going to add another log, and sit back and enjoy the warmth of my success… 😉
With best wishes to you in the growth of your goals,
Our heater is broken.
It has been out of action for a few weeks. And it is planned to be a number more weeks before the technician can take a look to fix it.
We have a small portable heater that we are using to heat our bedroom, which has become our sanctuary. The temperature in our bedroom is almost double that of the rest of the house. Our house is COLD!
But you know what? As much as it is great to always have everything working, this experience of temperature difference has really made us appreciate the impact that temperature can have. It has made us appreciate the technology that goes into a heater. And with us all huddling together for warmth in the one room, it has made us appreciate just how little space we really need to live in.
In fact it has been quite fun to use our ingenuity and find different ways to keep warm. We are quite adaptable, we have discovered! We have also enjoyed being together in close quarters; really being a part of each others lives. It has been somewhat of a bonding experience!
And this is the point that I am wishing to make. That what sometimes may appear to be a difficult experience, a trial, something that we wouldn’t consciously choose, can actually be a good thing. It can be an opportunity to grow. It can be an opportunity to appreciate things from a new perspective. A perspective that we would never have experienced had the unanticipated situation not occurred. In fact, the situation that we may have initially labelled as ‘bad’, we might end up being incredibly grateful for.
Without the experience of duality, the opposite of that which we yearn for, we could never truly appreciate that which we receive. It is only be knowing the opposite, that we are able to put things into context. Without cold there could be no appreciation of hot. Without ‘down’ times, there would be no ‘up’ times; it would be ‘same-old, same-old’…
So as much as I am looking forward to getting our heater fixed and returning to a comfortable temperature within our house, I am feeling very grateful for our current experience. And besides, it is getting us ready for the coming ski season. 😉
What we focus upon expands… I choose love –> what are you choosing?
OK, so here is an interesting topic to ponder: Do your feelings get hurt when another person gives you feedback that is contradictory to what you had thought/created?
Over the past couple of days, I have had this situation presented to me twice.
In the first instance, I was the person giving the feedback, and in the second I was consoling my daughter who received guiding feedback from her teacher. Let me discuss each separately.
A couple of days ago a dear friend of mine sent me a copy of brochure for an upcoming workshop she is planning. She solicited my thoughts, though I am not sure she anticipated the amount of feedback that I provided. Having attended a seminar recently that was specifically focused on marketing, I felt that I had some additional insights to share with her, so I passed them on. From my viewpoint, the more ideas and suggestions that I made, the more love I was imparting to her and her new venture. However, I was also quite aware of the potential that my comments could be received as criticism, and deflate someone whom I was intending to lift up! In giving the feedback I was very clear in setting my intent that all comments were aimed at increasing her success, and I am fortunate that my friend is very wise and knows that I have her best interests at heart.
The experience did get me thinking though. I realised that I would not have gone to such detail in giving feedback to someone I did not care about. In fact, it would be easier to simply say “Yeah, its great”. So, is providing more feedback a sign of love? Well I guess it may depend on how it is delivered, and the intent behind the person making the comments.
In my daughters case, she is also making brochures for an upcoming “travel expo” at her school. Each girl is allocated a different town to represent, and is then expected to become a practising travel agent for that town for the day. In making her brochures, her teacher suggested that the photos she had included might look better with a red border around them. My daughter disagreed, but more than that, her feelings were hurt because the teacher had, in her eyes, criticised her work. Through some tears we enjoyed a lovely discussion at home, and I was thankful to be able to give my daughter a different perspective on her teachers motives. I was able to show her that it was actually her teacher’s intent to help her, and to make her brochure more ‘successful’. It was, essentially, an act of love.
So the trick, is in realising this when we are on the receiving end… All too easily our ego jumps in, eager to defend the work we have done, or the stance that we are taking. In doing so, we may just miss the opportunity to grow, to learn, to be nourished by this other soul who has actually taken the time to give us feedback. It may in fact have been easier for them to pass on by, to let things lie, rather than to make the effort to add their advice and perspective. They may even be risking their new idea being rejected by us, but feel that the potential benefit is worth the risk. Sometimes this is the reason that critical comments are made with such force. It says more about the concern of the person delivering them, and their fear that they won’t be sufficiently heard and taken seriously, than it does of the true need for changes to be made.
I invite you, when next someone offers you some advice, especially when it seems critical or contradictory to your current thoughts, to say thankyou. They have taken the time to present their ideas, the least you can do is take the time to receive them. Discard the thoughts, if that then feels right, after having allowed the love to be received and the intent to be analysed.
Do you have examples of times when criticism you received actually turned out to be the best piece of advice you received? I would love for you to share your story by leaving me a comment…
Looking at myself, mirrored in others.
I’m Starting With The Man In
I’m Asking Him To Change
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
These are the lyrics from Michael Jackson’s song “Man in the Mirror”.
It is true that over the years many great musicians have been the influencers of our lives, and the presenters of new and inspirational thoughts to the public. Their words have often challenged our thinking and encouraged us to look at the world, and ourselves, in a new way.
But there is more to this song, than merely the recognition that we have the power individually to make a change for the better. On a deeper level this song reflects the reality that the world that we inhabit, the people we interact with, and the way others treat us, is a direct reflection on ourselves.
The people we spend time with, willingly, are often more similar to us than we care to recognise. Our choice of friends can be indicative of our current view of the world. And sometimes they can even inhibit our spiritual growth through their own fears of change. Keep this in mind the next time you are choosing to change, and ensure that the friends you are spending time with support you on your quest and are encouraging of the new person you are choosing to become.
Some others in our lives can be facilitators of our own experience. If there is a person in your life who creates stress or upset for you, there are 3 questions I encourage you to ask yourself.
- Is this person somehow demonstrating a part of myself that I have not acknowledged within my being?
- Is this person providing me with the opportunity to become a greater version of myself, by owning my power and changing the nature of our relationship?
- Is this person providing duality in my experience and showing me an alternative way to do things, that I may or may not agree with and choose?
None of these are easy questions to pose, nor to answer. However, in my experience, the process is incredibly beneficial to opening up a greater understanding, and love, of ourselves.
By identifying, and owning, our negative traits, we have an opportunity to change and transform them into new ways of being in the world.
By identifying the gift the other person is giving to us, by allowing us to experience ourselves in a new way (possibly as stronger, more self-assured, with clearer personal boundaries, etc) we are able to feel grateful to them for the chance at self expression we have received.
By identifying those who are offering the duality of experience, I encourage you to give thanks for their demonstration of the way ‘not to do things’. Sometimes having this demonstrated clearly around us prevents us from falling into similar habits along the way.
In my experience, the more love I give to everyone around me, from family members to acquaintances at the supermarket for example, the more I am greeted by loving people wherever I go. Initially this felt awkward, unnatural, and a bit weird to be so friendly to people I had never met before, but now I can say that I truly enjoy the world being a mirror, and the power I have to shape my experience.
May you be blessed with infinite love & gratitude, for what I give, I receive…
A couple of days ago my daughter’s class were given the opportunity to jump and play in a pile of leaves that the groundsmen at their school had raked up for them. How truly blessed they are!
I love the sounds of autumn leaves; the crunch under foot, the crinkly, swishy sound they make when you walk through them. I love the vibrant colours, and throwing them up in the air and watching them rain down again. I love watching the sun filter through the trees, and on a windy day, seeing the shower of leaves as they are released from the branches above. The epitomy is to catch one that has been newly released from the tree, before it has floated to the ground.
Now I also want to tell you that our girls got thoroughly filthy in the process of this leaf larricking. And so I started to wonder; how many of us miss the joy of life, for fear of experiencing a little dirt? A couple of the girls were concerned about getting their clothes dirty and so played on the edges of the pile. Their experience was more of an observatory nature. Some of the girls waited for another girl to go first, to lead the way, and then followed their example; figuring that if it was OK for her, then it must be OK for me.
And then there were the girls who were in the thick of it. These were the girls who came out with dirt in their hair and leaves in their pockets. Twigs stuck to their socks, and a soaring smile on their face. Their laughter was contagious and their joy evident in the sparkle in their eyes. In this experience, they held nothing back, and soaked up every bit of joy available.
Watching them, I felt inspired!
Of course every person is perfect as they already are, and the way they express themselves differently is what makes life interesting. But in this example, I resolved that I wanted to be one of the dirty kids, one who is willing to put up with a bit of dirt or discomfort to enjoy the full experience. I know that the dirt can be washed off, the discomfort will fade, and the memories of moments such as these will be cherished forever.
So which part of the pile do you choose to play in???