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Our deepest fear…

  • Posted on August 4, 2011 at 6:37 pm

Coach Carter Movie

Here is a snippet from the movie “Coach Carter”. Watch and be inspired… and decide, what miracles are you going to make happen today?

Just what is, a Lightworker?

  • Posted on June 14, 2011 at 9:29 pm

Introducing myself to a new martial arts student, I mentioned that I am a lightworker. This is a common term amongst many of my friends, but I was reminded that it is not yet a universal term when I was asked “What is a Lightworker?”.

So I thought it would be interesting to note down what my thoughts are, in terms of a definition…

Firstly, let me share what Google returned through an online search:

  • Lightworker – The New Age (also referred to as the New Age movement, New Age spirituality, and Cosmic Humanism) is a decentralized Western social and spiritual movement that seeks “Universal Truth” and the attainment of the highest individual human potential. …
  • Lightworker – A person driven and motivated to do work which makes the world a better place, improves peoples’ lives, and/or elevates people to a higher level of consciousness
  • Lightworkers – are those who seek the truth on their spiritual journey toward Enlightenment. They feel the urge to heal others and a deep need to resolve the world’s problems . They very often feel compelled to write, teach, or counsel others; and know without a doubt that they are here for a higher purpose. …

And now to my thoughts:
I see a lightworker as someone who consciously chooses to bring greater love, peace and happiness to people’s lives.

A lightworker is someone who develops themselves deliberately, knowing that any improvement they make in their own life will most often times help others.

A lightworker is compassionate and non-judgemental, leads by example, and realises that all people are doing the best they know how, with the knowledge they have, at any point in time.

Many lightworkers have studied ways of helping and healing others, and it is their great joy to share their knowledge in assisting others to better their lives.

These are the ideals I do my best to live up to.
I, too, am still learning, and don’t always achieve it. But I am very clear about they type of person that I choose to be, and use this framework to assess options and make choices in alignment with these ideals whenever I can.

Are you a lightworker too? Many, many people do a number of these things naturally, and add huge amounts of light and love to our world. We are blessed to have these people in our lives, and give thanks for their presence and uplifting natures. If this is your nature, I invite you to also make it a conscious decision, set an intention for your life and join the many of us who are empowering ourselves and others in making our world a better place.

I would love to hear what you think, or if you have any extra ideas on the characteristics that define a lightworker. Please leave me a comment!
With infinite love & gratitude,

Shining the light in our own community

  • Posted on June 2, 2011 at 7:36 am

Rippling joy around the world

Have you ever thought of yourself as being small, unimportant, insignificant?

This is something that I have grappled with many times throughout my life, and occasionally crosses my mind even now.

I am prone to wishing that I was someone ‘greater’, more influential, more ‘important’. What I failed to acknowledge and sometimes still forget is that I make a huge impact in the lives of all those I directly come in contact with!

I have the power to create joyful experiences, and hence to add light to the world, … and so do you.

Last month, in fact, I ran our bi-annual school fair. It was a fantastic day of fun, friendship and fundraising, and was concluded with fantastic fireworks. The joy that my committee and I were able to create on this special day was embraced by all the families who attended, and rippled out to all the people they then interacted with in the days and weeks to follow.

Even now, many weeks later, people are still talking about the wonderful day that it was, and reliving the joy that they experienced.

“A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.” This proverb illustrates how our small actions can actually have a huge impact. In chaos theory, the ‘butterfly effect’ states that a butterfly flapping its wings on one side of the world, through the ripple effect, can create a hurricane on the other side of the world.

With this is mind, I now realise that the smallest of things that I do, can have a huge influence on the world around me. By creating a joyful environment for my local community, my community members and I transmit the vibration of joy to a wide network of people whom we interact with, and they in turn then create a more joyful environment for the people they interact with. And on and on it goes!


Mohandas Ghandi said “You must be the change you wish to see in the world”. Where better to start, than in your own family and local community? The more love and light you bring to your own environment, the more that ripples outwards to uplift the world as a whole.

This is the principle that I now live by. As Mother Teresa taught us “We can do no great things, only small things with great love”. So my question to you is, what small things can you do with great love, right now?





When will my life begin?

  • Posted on May 31, 2011 at 7:16 pm

Is this a common thought for you? Are you still waiting?

My counter-question to you is, when will you take responsibility for being the driver of your life?

We all have the ability to carve out the nature of our lives. We are the producers, directors, script-writers, and stars of our own life story. If we don’t like the way our life is going, it is our own responsibility to re-write the script.

When did you last take time out to review your script? Does it still fit the person you now are? Does it still excite you? Is it time to change, to write a new script?

The first step to making a life change, is to identify your new direction. Start with the end in mind. If you don’t know where you want to end up, its mighty hard to take steps in the right direction. And if you are not navigating the direction of your life, then who is doing it for you? Who are you giving your power away to?

In reality, your life is well underway and you are truly participating. In fact, you are contributing to yours and many other people’s lives every day. When you interact with a shop assistant, a family member, a teacher, an employer, a customer, anyone, you have the opportunity to demonstrate the person you are choosing to become. You have the opportunity to influence every person you interact with, to brighten their day, and to also make them feel noticed and important. And as you do this to others, you will soon discover that it is in your own life where the benefits are.

Mother Teresa said “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”

If you would like to share your new life-script, or any thoughts you may have, I would love to receive a comment from you!

With love to you, may you be consciously creating your life,

Break the Low Self-Esteem Habit

  • Posted on May 31, 2011 at 7:33 am

I just found this article, and was impressed with how well it linked in my previous blog post. So I am adding it here for you to review as well. Thanks to Joseph Liberti for explaining this topic so eloquently!

Low self-esteem is not a defect, it is a habit – and it is a habit that you can break!

“I thought that feeling inadequate not having self-confidence was just my personality and I was stuck with it,” she said, “and now I know better.”

One of my coaching clients was talking about low self-esteem and self-confidence and like so many others she had believed there was something basically wrong with her and she was stuck with it. Not true!

Low self-esteem is a habit – a habit of feeling and thinking that causes you to treat yourself as inferior.

How You Treat Yourself Is A Choice
Hear this: How you treat yourself is a choice. You could choose to treat yourself with respect and give yourself understanding and love. Or you could choose to criticize yourself, reject yourself and treat yourself with contempt.

“It’s not that easy,” you say? I understand. The problem is that when you are caught in a low self-esteem habit you do not think about how you are choosing to treat yourself, you react automatically with a “survival strategy” – a behavior you developed to cope with your world.

Your Outdated Survival Strategy
For example: Perhaps, as child, there was a time when you told yourself a convenient lie. You thought someone was rejecting you and that seemed painful to you. In an attempt to dull the pain you blamed yourself and told yourself you were bad. Each time you encountered a similar experience you reused the same strategy until it became habit. At one time it may have been a useful strategy but it no longer serves you.

Learning A New Habit
Now, if you are ready to, you can unlearn that habit of self-depreciation and form a new relationship with yourself – a relationship in which you choose to regard yourself as worthy of love, respect and happiness How? Through a combination of awareness, self-management and purposeful action. Become aware of the thoughts and feelings that motivate your actions. Develop the skill of managing your emotions and make new choices.

Change Your Relationship With You
Your self-esteem is not dependent on what others think of you, or what you own or what you have achieved so far. Your self-esteem is the result of the relationship you choose to have with yourself. Choose to create a new relationship with yourself and regard yourself as your own best friend and your self-esteem and self-confidence will flourish.

Get My Blue Paper
To more fully understand how to make the shift to self-esteem and self-confidence, click here to download my blue paper Liberate The Power of True You.

Joseph Liberti

Copyright 2009 Joseph Liberti, Author of Yes You Can: Boost self-confidence, manage emotions, improve decisions, overcome challenges and be happy, or how to enjoy life using emotional intelligence and authenticity.

Becoming my own cheerleader

  • Posted on May 28, 2011 at 7:31 am

Do you seek validation from others?

Do you change who you are to try and make others like you?

Do you ever feel ‘not good enough’ when comparing yourself with others?

Believe me, I can relate. Growing up I was a high-achiever. Awards, recognition, top marks, were a normal part of my life. I worked hard, and enjoyed the accolades.

But the awards and results weren’t enough. Underneath, I still carried a feeling of not being ‘good enough’. I felt that I had to earn love, and prove my worthiness. When receiving an award I would feel validated, that my existence was indeed worthwhile. And then the feeling would pass. I would be driven to do it again, find another project to ace, find another group of friends to impress. I had low self-esteem.

I was not aware that this was my behavioural pattern, until having been a full-time Mum for a number of years. As a Mum I felt isolated from the rest of the working world. I was the first of my generation of family and friends to have children, and felt left-out, almost abandoned. My self-respect suffered. As I was not earning any money, I felt my role in life was diminished, and my personal power had been withdrawn. I was in a downward spiral, my relationship with my husband and myself suffered. I was not able to love myself and felt that I was no longer receiving the love from my husband that I thought I needed from him. This was a low point in my life.

And then I started martial arts. I discovered that I did indeed still have some power, the ability to learn, and the opportunity to make friends. The only problem was that I was still looking for validation outside of myself. One of the high-ranking students in our club gave me positive feedback about my progress, which I viewed as affection. I became addicted to his positive comments, and secretly yearned for his feedback. I was having a mental affair with this training partner, though I had barely spoken with him in real life. I still loved my husband, and felt guilty for having thoughts about another man. But it felt so good to think that someone saw good in me, so I indulged in these thoughts for almost 10 months. Unfortunately the guilt that I was carrying was building up over this time, and eventually presented itself physically as mid-cycle bleeding.

It was then that my soul decided it was time for me to awaken spiritually. My husband and I attended a personal development workshop, and our minds were expanded. We learnt that our thoughts create the experience of our life, and that the physical happenings in our life were directly related to our thoughts and feelings. I realised that my guilt was creating the bleeding! What a shock!

I also realised that I was looking for validation from others. And that it was time to change. I needed to be my own cheerleader…

Over the past 5 years I have taken a new path and am indeed living into that desire of being my own cheerleader. I have an affirmation that I read every morning. It says:

I am inspiring, enchanting, loving and creative.

I know that this is the type of person I choose to be, and now make decisions based on their alignment to this statement. I have consciously surrounded myself with people who will assist me in maintaining this direction in my life, and who can help me stay on track when I occasionally forget my own value.

What do you do to be your own cheerleader? I would love for you to leave me a comment with your thoughts and ideas!

With infinite love & gratitude,


Our Deepest Fear, by Marianne Williamson

  • Posted on May 25, 2011 at 7:22 am

One of my favourite passages of all time, is the following, written by Marianne Williamson. I hope you enjoy it, and that it resonates as well with you as it has with me. Wishing you blessings, and a life of infinite love and gratitude, Amanda

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Here are some details about the book within which this piece was written:
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”