Looking at myself, mirrored in others.
I’m Starting With The Man In
I’m Asking Him To Change
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
These are the lyrics from Michael Jackson’s song “Man in the Mirror”.
It is true that over the years many great musicians have been the influencers of our lives, and the presenters of new and inspirational thoughts to the public. Their words have often challenged our thinking and encouraged us to look at the world, and ourselves, in a new way.
But there is more to this song, than merely the recognition that we have the power individually to make a change for the better. On a deeper level this song reflects the reality that the world that we inhabit, the people we interact with, and the way others treat us, is a direct reflection on ourselves.
The people we spend time with, willingly, are often more similar to us than we care to recognise. Our choice of friends can be indicative of our current view of the world. And sometimes they can even inhibit our spiritual growth through their own fears of change. Keep this in mind the next time you are choosing to change, and ensure that the friends you are spending time with support you on your quest and are encouraging of the new person you are choosing to become.
Some others in our lives can be facilitators of our own experience. If there is a person in your life who creates stress or upset for you, there are 3 questions I encourage you to ask yourself.
- Is this person somehow demonstrating a part of myself that I have not acknowledged within my being?
- Is this person providing me with the opportunity to become a greater version of myself, by owning my power and changing the nature of our relationship?
- Is this person providing duality in my experience and showing me an alternative way to do things, that I may or may not agree with and choose?
None of these are easy questions to pose, nor to answer. However, in my experience, the process is incredibly beneficial to opening up a greater understanding, and love, of ourselves.
By identifying, and owning, our negative traits, we have an opportunity to change and transform them into new ways of being in the world.
By identifying the gift the other person is giving to us, by allowing us to experience ourselves in a new way (possibly as stronger, more self-assured, with clearer personal boundaries, etc) we are able to feel grateful to them for the chance at self expression we have received.
By identifying those who are offering the duality of experience, I encourage you to give thanks for their demonstration of the way ‘not to do things’. Sometimes having this demonstrated clearly around us prevents us from falling into similar habits along the way.
In my experience, the more love I give to everyone around me, from family members to acquaintances at the supermarket for example, the more I am greeted by loving people wherever I go. Initially this felt awkward, unnatural, and a bit weird to be so friendly to people I had never met before, but now I can say that I truly enjoy the world being a mirror, and the power I have to shape my experience.
May you be blessed with infinite love & gratitude, for what I give, I receive…